Dr. Lisa Pion-Berlin
Dr. Pion-Berlin is a passionate and compassionate leader and expert in resiliency, shared leadership®, family strengthening and prevention with more 38 years of research, advocacy and program implementation focusing on Evidence-Based Services and Initiatives. Fondly, called Dr. Lisa she is also an experienced clinician and Clinical Hypnotherapist working with Parents, Adults and Children of all ages to address their underlying emotional issues, change behaviors and reduce anxiety, fear and loss just to name a few. She has a Ph.D. in Social Work from Ohio State University, Masters in Social Work & Masters in Public Administration from University of Denver, and Bachelors of Science in Psychology from Georgetown University. Dr. Lisa believes Asking for Help is a Sign of Strength® and she envisions a just society where all Parents, Children & Youth thrive in resilient families and communities.
Dr. Lisa has published many academic articles and book chapters on resilience, parent and shared leadership® and systems change and consulted with the US Departments of Education, Centers for Disease Control & Prevention, US Department of Justice, and Health and Human Services. Dr. Lisa has been interviewed on the Today Show, Good Morning America, ABC Nightly News, and in The New York Times, Washington Post and LA Times just to name a few. Since 1991, she has led worldwide Parents Anonymous® Inc., (which began in 1969) with many accolades: the only Evidence-Based Parent Partner Program (California Evidence-Based Clearinghouse for Child Welfare), recognitions regarding Delinquency Prevention, Meaningful Parent Engagement and Child Maltreatment, Substance Abuse and Domestic Violence Prevention & Treatment committed to supporting the empowerment journey of Parents, Children & Youth. Dr. Lisa launched National Parent Leadership Month® celebrated worldwide and the only National Certification of Parent Leaders which a research and competency based program for Parent Advocates and Shared Leadership® in Action to successfully partner with organizations and parents to improve outcomes. In all aspects of her work, Dr. Lisa ensures meaningful shared leadership® with Parents and Youth to support them in sharing their expertise to better outcomes for all families.
Through shared leadership® she has built many national coalitions and successful partnership with Parents and Youth, Schools, Early Childhood Entities, Community-Based Agencies, Mental health and heath care providers, successfully partnered with county, state and federal child welfare agencies to improve outcomes for parents, children and youth. Her published research has emphasized the enhancement of well-being and the mitigation and prevention of Adverse Childhood Experiences. Dr. Lisa launched the only National Certification of Parent Leaders, a research-based program to build social capital and create systems change. She has engaged in Parent Leadership research to enhance social capital and create systems change in diverse communities nationwide.
Dr. Lisa has testified before Congress and the California Legislature and served on numerous federal, state and county Commissions to improve the lives of Parents, Children & Youth worldwide. She launched the first and only National Parent Helpline® and now with the support of Governor Newsom’s Administration the California Parent & Youth Helpline is open 8-8 PM Monday through Sunday to provide Evidence-Based emotional support and referrals to address the problems facing families due to the Coronavirus. 1-855-4APARENT: caparentyouthhelpline.org.
If you do not know how to center and calm yourself, how can you help your kid when they’re facing disappointment? We are faced with disappointments every day and we do not have a playbook because this has never happened. All we have is some tools in the toolbox.@lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
People should meditate. It’s the cheapest most effective and easiest thing to learn, it grows gray matter in your brain, it reduces anxiety, helps people focus, reduces depression…it doesn’t cost anything! @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Parents can teach their kids how they can create a safe space. Ask your kid what you can do to help them and let them cry. Parents need to remember they can cry too. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
We need to dig down deep and say that this is really horrible. It’s okay. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Families are having more family time but parents and kids also need time for themselves. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Loosen up on the fact that you’re going to be the teacher and you’re going to start at 8:00 a.m., end at 2:00 p.m. Work with the teacher on what your kid is struggling with now. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
You need to give a safe space for these kids to cry and express their fear. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
There is so much emotional stress right now that some kids will developmentally revert. All the problems we had as people when COVID-19 started are still there. If that child had a lot of anxiety about school, math, or other kinds of things, they still have it and now are expressing it at home. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Eyes on the prize. Observe your child and try to create safe spaces for them to talk about their fears and concerns, and don’t reassure things will be back to normal by a specific time. That unknown may raise up the level of anxiety. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Eat healthy, make sure kids get a lot of sleep, and stimulate creativity. This is the time to do that. Parents will need to encourage, encourage, encourage kids to dig down deep. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
All that fighting going on about if your child did their homework, are they going to graduate fourth grade or even get out of high school, or about their grades doesn’t help. It starts with listening and saying it’s okay if you don’t have the answer, you love them, and you’re there to protect them. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
It’s important to talk to your child about their feelings if you notice a dramatic change in their behavior. Also identify the safeguards that are there to help build their resilience so they can deal with anxieties. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Anxieties don’t go away by just assuring your child that they won’t get sick. Affirm the positive over and over again to your child and even implementing meditation. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Pay attention, don’t ignore anything. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
You need to keep reassuring your child and tuning into their behavior. If they appear anxious, you need to ask them to do some breathing with you, play some soothing music, and maybe have them color. Find out their interests and what you can do to be creative. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
In learning, some people just do didactic methodology and lecture people. Kids need kinesthetics and can thrive when you create groups. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
This is the equal opportunity pandemic. We’ve never experienced this in our whole life, so we as parents and children are experiencing something for the first time. We don’t know which way we’re going, we don’t know who’s driving the train, and what the answer says. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Asking for help is a sign of strength. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Whatever fears or concerns we have, if we don’t have the courage to ask because we feel blamed and shamed or feel put down, we need to find those people to embrace and support us in this journey because this is a very trying time. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
We’re disconnected. We’re now finding ways through technology to try to be connected but it’s not the same thing. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
The ingenuity and the resiliency of parents that I see right now is phenomenal. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
In this country, people have forgotten about parents. All this burden in now on parents. We’ve started to realize everybody’s locked up with their kids no matter what age. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
How do people go to work if there’s no safe childcare? The resources out there have diminished because of loss of funding, etc. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
People are more insular than ever. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
I believe in the strengths of humans, and I believe that in a crisis, we dig deep. We need to ask how we’re going to stretch that dollar, how are we going to tradeoff between diapers and rice? @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Parents can dig deep and drop into their body to deal with underlying emotional issues. Then they reach out to others to build trust and belonging. That’s the gift that keeps on giving. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
We need to embrace what everybody is about and embrace their support. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
People want a supportive ear and they might not want to see you because they don’t know how to tell you their troubles.
One of the real issues for parents right now is unending fear – the fear of the unknown, the level of anxiety, and trying to keep it together for their kids. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Most people understand that the calmer they are, lowering their voice, and going down to their child’s level to talk to them, the better they can connect to them. Keeping that together in a sustained way can be difficult when we do not know what the future is. We need to find ways to embrace the uncertainty. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
What we can’t change, we have to embrace. There’s still fear about testing, screening, vaccines and the future. The biggest question right now is how will kids come back to school and be safe? @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
No matter what your education is or what your experience is, we should all appreciate schools and teachers more and more.
Parents are seeing that this is a really hard job to do, so there has to be some kind of separation in their role as well as trying to define that for your family. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Nurture yourself before you can nurture your children. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit
Things are changing and that is the most uncertain part about this pandemic. Keep breathing and move forward.
The people you can hug, hug them. Smiling and laughing releases so many good endorphins in our brain. Smile till it hurts and laugh so loud – do it every day. Also make sure that you and your family and eating well and sleeping well. @lpbstrong @LIOVirtualParentSummit